All good thoughts, Van. Where it all falls apart is when someone says, “Well, they should know what I want without asking.” Good sexual partners aren’t necessarily mindreaders. If you’re not getting what you want, say something. Placing blame isn’t a sexual act, it’s a blame act and, too often, it’s an excuse to say, “That’s why I don’t like sex.” If you don’t like it, you don’t like it. Why does it have to be someone else’s fault?