Johnathan, when we were kids we built forts. Because we were boys and liked forts, we were the initiators. We banned together and built the walls, the roof — sometimes even the floor. When girls came around and wanted to play in our fort, we were reluctant, bossy and protective. We weren’t chauvinists. We didn’t have a clue what that meant. All we knew was we built something, and therefore believed it allowed us to set the rules. Think of business today. Companies of any size, history and success were probably formed by men. And just like our little forts, they feel the same possessiveness. To say they have no right, they’re not being fair, they’re being chauvinistic is no different than our little forts. But we did let the girls in the forts eventually and, as we grew older, we started taking more interest in being with a girl in the fort than a guy (boy, did I get smacked for that!). Eventually, we grew up and had houses with women, learning to do things together, to plan, renovate, etc. To say men are jerks for not accepting equality ignores the early upbringing of males. Like maturing, it comes in time, it comes with acceptance and trust. All this finger-pointing gets us nowhere. And I remember one little girl getting so mad at us, she said to the other girls, “We’ll build their own fort.” And they did, and it was better than ours. Something to think about.

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I did a poor imitation of Don Draper for 40 years before writing my first novel. I'm currently in the final stages of a children's book. Lucky me.

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