What I’ve noticed on social media (with all the photos and thanks, and “What a wonder dinner you served!) is how we place social over personal. I remember my ex telling her daughter to stop sitting in her room. “You have to be social. It’s not normal if you aren’t.” My mother said the same thing to me when I was a child. “You have to play with your cousins,” she’d say, “it’s just what you do.” Funnily enough, nobody says thinking is normal. Nobody applauds it until you’re published (and that’s only because it is publishing). We place very little importance on thinking today, and therefore very little importance on creativity. That’s why we’re able to give it up so easily. It’s weird to think and create. It’s not weird to say, “I’ve had it writing my book. Who cares? Where are we meeting for dinner.” It’s so much easier to take a picture sitting in a restaurant. You eat, you post your meal, you get comments like: “Wow, that looks delicious!” With so much positive affirmation, why bother being creative — or even thinking.

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I did a poor imitation of Don Draper for 40 years before writing my first novel. I'm currently in the final stages of a children's book. Lucky me.

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